Janet ---> Mother, 42
Bio:
Janet lives a complicated life. She grew up in a household with 6 younger siblings, hogging all the attention but loved watching them waddle around in her old out of fashion hand-me-downs. While having to raise herself, Janet also had to raise her siblings while her mom worked 14 hour days. Janet swore to herself when she set off on her own that she wasn’t going to end up like her parents. She desired for a husband in which she can rely on, trust, and have as a partner and companion. Flash forward 20 years, 5 years after her divorce to a husband who was never there, emotionally or financially. Forced to provide for herself, Janet has had a successful career as a CEO for an organic food company. Along with running a company, Janet manages to juggle the lives of 3 children, with no child support. Even as a powerful woman in her field, Janet still struggles with her self confidence. She covers up her insecurities with designer clothes, golf outings, and gossiping. Janet is known for being the gossip queen around town, but why does she have the need to fill that position when she has so much going for her?
Questions:
- Tell me about a time, past or present, where you have talked bad about a friend behind their back.
- Tell me about a time that you may know of, past or present, when your friend was talking bad about you behind you back. Do you regret it?
- Have any of your friendships crumbled due to backstabbing, gossiping, or rude remarks?
- Why do you think so many women naturally talk bad about their friends? Is it constant pressures from society or for selfish reasonings?
- Do you think women shaming women is just an issue for young people, or women as a large demographic? Explain.
- As a mother of 3, do your children’s friendships remind you of your own back when you were their age? Explain.
- From observing your children’s friendships compared to your own, what is the difference between boy friendships and girl friendships? How are they similar?
- Looking back at your high school days, do you think your friendships have changed overtime? Why do you think that is?
- Due to past hardships and struggles, do you find it hard to trust and rely on your friends? Why?
- What advice would you give to high school girls struggling with friendships and experiencing women shaming issues?
Velma ---> Grandmother, 74
Bio:
For years Velma was on top. From running a family restaurant with her late husband, to raising 5 beautiful children who went off to do big and better things. Velma isn’t like any old grandma, she considers herself hip. She tries to stay connected with the youth and the pop culture. She is surprisingly tech savvy for her age and always has the latest iPhone. However in her non-virtual world, Velma is lonely. Her husband recently passed and her children all moved away for bigger and better things. She has trouble getting involved with the community and women of her age. Envy fills Velma when she sees other women always helping out with community festivities, forcing her to talk down about those people. While from the outside Velma has it all together, but interior she is lost, unmotivated, and weak as the rude remarks fill her up with satisfaction and self worth.
For years Velma was on top. From running a family restaurant with her late husband, to raising 5 beautiful children who went off to do big and better things. Velma isn’t like any old grandma, she considers herself hip. She tries to stay connected with the youth and the pop culture. She is surprisingly tech savvy for her age and always has the latest iPhone. However in her non-virtual world, Velma is lonely. Her husband recently passed and her children all moved away for bigger and better things. She has trouble getting involved with the community and women of her age. Envy fills Velma when she sees other women always helping out with community festivities, forcing her to talk down about those people. While from the outside Velma has it all together, but interior she is lost, unmotivated, and weak as the rude remarks fill her up with satisfaction and self worth.
Questions:
- What would advice would you give to young girls who are talking bad about their friends for selfish reasonings?
- Describe your friend group and how you fit in or what is your role in your circle.
- Tell me about a time, past or present, where you have talked bad about a friend behind their back.
- Tell me about a time that you may know of, past or present, when your friend was talking bad about you behind you back. Do you regret it?
- Have you had any friendships broken because of bash talking, gossiping, or friend shaming in general?
- Do you think women shaming women, or friend shaming, is just a phase when you are younger, or do you still see this occur now?
- How do you think men compared to women deal with competition vs friend relationships?
- How are you friendship circles different or similar from friendships you have had throughout your lifetime?
- Do you find it difficult to get plugged in to new friend groups? Why or why not?
- Why do you think women shame other women? Competition? Men? Jealousy? Status?
- What would you say to young girls now dealing with friends talking behind their back?
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